Multi-day journeys in the Netherlands, deeply prepared and carefully integrated, for leaders ready to meet themselves fully and bring what they find back into their lives.
The difference between an experience and a journey is integration.
An experience is a one-time thing: a different state for a few hours, and then you are back where you started. Useful, sometimes. But nothing changes. A journey is different. It begins with preparation and an intention. You go within yourself, to meet who you truly are, in your essence and in your blind spots, and then you carry what you find back into your daily life and your being.
Over a multi-day format, a journey moves through the whole arc of a life: a Hero’s Journey. We meet ourselves in the mirror of one another; nothing lives inside a single person alone. It is whole work: the thinking, the sensing, the doing, and the being.
A journey asks three things of you: preparation and a clear intention beforehand, full presence during the days themselves, and time afterwards to integrate what you found. It is deep, transformational work for people who take their own becoming seriously, and want to live with more consciousness, and more aliveness.
The Four Passages · As a journey
The same Four Passages I walk in every field, lived here in one multi-day arc. Here is what each passage becomes on a journey.
Meeting what’s underneath
Beyond the “Me”.
It begins before you travel: careful preparation, your state, your intention. You set down the roles you live by and turn toward what lies beneath the structure of your life.
Becoming fully seen
From “Me” to “I”.
A safe, carefully held ceremonial setting, among serious people. Seen as you are, without the roles, you meet your own “I”; the group becomes the mirror in which the work happens.
Light and shadow, without shame
From “I” to “We”.
The deep experience: meeting the light and the shadow you have never looked at, without shame. What you face, the group holds with you, and a new story for your life takes shape.
Exchanging “Pursuit of Happiness” with “Aliveness”
From “We” to “All”.
Bringing it home. In the afterglow we integrate the journey into daily life, bridging head and heart, until what you found lives on as aliveness in your family, your work and the world.
Walked in order, they carry you from preparation to integration, and up a level.
Loes led our group with the lightest touch imaginable, yet her energetic field was unmistakably strong — you felt held before you understood why. Loes doesn’t just facilitate a retreat; she opens a door most of us didn’t know was there.
Loes carries a rare kind of feminine strength — quiet, intuitive, and utterly certain of itself. As lead facilitator of the Lighthouse retreat, she led our group with the lightest touch imaginable, yet her energetic field was unmistakably strong; you felt held before you understood why. She brings love and trust into a room in a way that makes it safe to go to the places we normally protect — and then she guards that inner journey for each of us, gently but vigilantly, never letting the group’s energy carry anyone somewhere they weren’t ready to go.
What struck me most is how little the process was ever about her. Loes has such depth into human nature that she knows exactly when to step forward and when to disappear entirely, so the healing stays ours, not hers. Because of her, I walked away with a clearer view of my own psyche — what was truly important versus what was just my ego talking — and, unexpectedly, I saw my partner of 40 years in a completely new light. I don’t think I could have reached those insights anywhere else. Loes doesn’t just facilitate a retreat; she opens a door most of us didn’t know was there.
There was a real sense of togetherness in the room, yet each of us still had space to be fully ourselves. Loes guided the group’s energy with such care that it often felt almost sacred — and throughout, I could feel her genuine presence, empathy, and attentiveness toward each of us.
One of Loes’s greatest gifts is her ability to create a space where people feel safe, truly seen, and able to discover their own answers. She follows the process with deep attentiveness and trust.
I first came to know Loes personally and later had the opportunity to work with her professionally. It is a rare privilege to experience the same person in two entirely different contexts. In both, I was deeply struck by Loes’s authenticity, wisdom, and extraordinary way of working with people.
Loes brings together qualities that are rarely found in one person: grounded expertise in psychology and business, a deep understanding of transformational processes, a remarkable ability to sense individuals and groups, strong intuition, and an exceptional sense of lightness and creativity. She notices what remains unspoken, subtle, or not yet fully conscious — often the very things that hold the key to genuine change.
One of Loes’s greatest gifts is her ability to create a space where people feel safe, truly seen, and able to discover their own answers. She follows the process with deep attentiveness and trust — she knows when to accompany, when to ask the right question, when to deepen the experience, and when to leave room for silence and inner discovery.
Loes seamlessly integrates psychology and leadership with deep therapeutic and energy work. At the same time, she has an excellent understanding of the demanding realities of business — the pressure to perform, the weight of responsibility, the need to deliver results, and the complex challenges facing today’s leaders. This enables her to build a bridge between what is inner and intangible and what is practical, measurable, and essential in everyday leadership.
Loes can be both an inspiring expert who opens people’s minds to new perspectives and a trusted guide through profound transformation. The change her work creates goes far beyond a powerful experience in the moment. It takes root — in people’s lives and relationships, in the way they lead, and in how their teams and organisations function.
I wholeheartedly recommend working with Loes to individuals, leaders, and teams looking for something more than another training programme. She is for those seeking a wise and attentive guide — someone who can recognise and work with even the most subtle elements that make genuine, lasting change possible.
Every journey is a Lighthouse journey. Most, where it serves, work with the careful use of sacred plant medicine: one tool among many, held within a legal, professional framework in the Netherlands, and always in service of the journey, never the other way around. A medicine-free path reaches for the same depth through the body, breath, and the elements.
Each format has its own brochure and workbook, built over years of running these journeys. Open a format to read more and look inside.
I come to this as a clinician first. Whatever surfaces, whether fear, old wounds or the deep material of a person’s life, I am trained to hold. Around that professional core I build the safest, most carefully held ceremonial setting I can, so people can go as far as they need to, and come back whole.
These journeys are grounded and spiritual at once: grounded in psychology and research, spiritual because they address the whole person. They are disciplined, carefully held, and made to be lived long after the journey ends. Call it secular spirituality: mysticism given its place in a modern life, independent of any religion or ideology. In older words: a temple, a true Hero’s Journey.
I work with people who take this seriously and hold it as sacred; that is why these journeys are so often described as life-changing. For a first journey, the Gateway is the place to begin.
This is what temples once were, brought into the daily life of today’s leaders.
This work rides a genuine renaissance. Since the research at Johns Hopkins over the past twenty years, at the highest scientific levels, psychedelic work has been re-established as a recognised, serious means of healing at a depth conventional approaches rarely reach, now being institutionalised across the academic and medical world. My contribution is to bridge that world with leadership and adult development. Leadership, at this altitude, is spirituality; and this is how it becomes part of a modern leader’s life.
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A journey is a space to keep growing. If something in you is ready to meet what is beneath the surface, and to bring it home, I would welcome the conversation.
Where is your own journey asking to go?
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